Tabitha Oyewole

I’m in my early 20s but I just started enjoying life. I was not social when I was in the University, I was very boring and it made me think I was depressed. Yea, I know I’m late, but like my high school teacher says, “it is better late than never”.

I’ve always had the tendency to do crazy things, I enjoy doing things different from the norm and I enjoy exploring, but I believed that I didn’t have the time when I was schooling. I was so focused on reading, I even refused to have a boyfriend because I didn’t want my grades to be affected. (Please don’t ask me for my grade, that’s a heartbreaking story for another day)

When I graduated, I relocated to another state for the compulsory program my country makes us do after graduation for a year, it’s called NYSC. Let’s say the scheme is a blessing in disguise for my social life, spiritual life, my health and my sanity. Lol.

I decided to start doing me and stop worrying about the things I couldn’t control. I stayed away from toxic people and started going out, having fun, making new friends, trying new things, and it has been fun so far.

I believe that most people get depressed when they are idle. “An idle man is the devil’s workshop”. If you think you are depressed, I think the first thing you should do is change your orientation, start going out, have fun, and explore; and believe me, you won’t have time to think about the problems in your life.

Stop complaining about the things you cannot change/control and have a positive view of life. Love yourself and forgive yourself. Choose your happiness, do what makes you happy, and don’t try to please anybody. This is what I’ve learned so far and it has made me happy.

Life is short; jump while you still have legs and fly while you still have wings.